Wanted. A Caring Woman























Oi !  Didn’t you forget something cats ?  Me ?  Oh boy !


~Blogs I Follow~

One or two of you have already noticed that I have made a big cut back of the Blogs I Follow.  A while ago I was becoming overwhelmed with New Post emails and I spent a lot of my blogging time visiting those new posts.  I hated to do it, but for my own sanity I made some major adjustments of how I blog.  I still love your posts and will always visit your blog if I receive a Like email or a Comment notification from you, as you have put yourself out to do those things, and, as a thank you from me I will always visit your blog.  I wanted to be honest with you, as I could have just edited any blog I followed to “emails off” which would be unjust as you would think I am still following.

I partly talked about this in a Guest Post I recently made in Janice’s blog.


So, what keeps you sane ?

(Ralph’s blog doesn’t !)  😉


Ralph xox ❤


134 Comments on “Wanted. A Caring Woman

  1. Ralph you need to only follow blogs that interest you, not out of a sense of duty. I follow you because I enjoy your posts. Mine may not interest you and that does not offend me at all. I understand about being overwhelmed.

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    • This is just the quandary I am talking about Quiall. I do like your posts, but I think you post everyday and I know you visit my blog, so I visit yours and maybe read 7 posts on one visit. I know it lessens your followers by one, but I am not a “ghost follower” who never visits. Ralph xox ❤

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      • I see your face and I appreciate your visits but please don’t feel obligated. I don’t care about the numbers. I care about the people. My name is Pamela. Pleased to meet you Ralph.

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  2. Based on what I have been seeing how Sonic and Samantha have been planning behind your back, I do not think they need a nice woman to care for 🙂

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  3. I can identify with being overwhelmed, Ralph. There’s hardly any time for anything else.
    Hope you’re feeling better.

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    • What you say here Leslie is so true. That’s why I had to drastically cut back to the point where I am enjoying blogging again.
      I’m fine thank you my friend. I’m off to Gibraltar again on Tuesday for my next acupuncture session. Something is working as I feel so much better with more energy 😀 Ralph xox ❤

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  4. Don’t ever feel you have to visit my blog when I visit yours. Blogging should be fun, not work. Come by if you feel like it but when you answer my comment that is always more than enough. Just my two cents! Xx

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    • Awww ! You are so kind Grainne ! I agree. Blogging should be fun. BTW I haven’t any change for the two cents. Keep it. Be rash. Go on holiday with it 😉 Ralph xox ❤

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  5. Honestly its hard to keep up with everybody even if you only follow blogs that interest you. I like reading your posts because they are so entertaining 😊 and I appreciate you reading mine. Of course mine might not be as appealing and that’s ok too. 😊

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    • Thanks for your great comment Kat. I agree. It”s impossible to keep up especially as there are so many good blogs in WP. Your blog is what you like to do and I respect that. Ralph xox ❤

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  6. I only follow blogs that interest me, and my reader list gets trimmed on occasion. Quite a number of my readers don’t visit my blog regularly, but I wait for them to catch up. I make it a point to keep up with bloggers who support me and try to find new, interesting blogs based on my interests every day. In terms of time management, it all works out. I wish you all the best and thank you very much for your warm support. x

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    • Amazingly that is exactly the point I am at as well and am finding blogging so much easier and more fun. Today is my busiest 200+ emails mainly due to this post, but I have time, leisurely time, to work my way through them plus answering comments. I love to support you Sabiscuit. Ralph xox ❤

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  7. I applaud and say thank you for you honesty. I can completely relate to being overwhelmed trying to keep up with a lot of blogs. So take it easy and enjoy. 🙂

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    • Your blog was one I had to unfollow as you post more than once a day sometimes Amanda. BUT, I do visit and read as many posts as I can in one hit. So I am still following you in my simple, funny way. 😀 Ralph xox ❤

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  8. they need a good step mommy. thanks for reading and commenting on my posts, ralph. there are times when i just can’t keep up and i know that people understand it, and know we all do the best we can. we have to keep it light and fun and not a job.

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    • My cats certainly need a good step mom Beth. I can’t control them 😉
      I always thought that you were overdoing it, but, hey, you do have some fun posts.
      Ralph xox ❤


  9. A funny post as in ha, ha funny not funny, odd at least I don’t think so but given the fact that your cats are the wise ones in your house maybe it is funny in an odd way. Now- Ralph is you read that and understood my “double talk then you are a genius.

    Seriously though, I don’t give a rip if I’m followed or not. Comment on the blogs that interest you or that you find have a common denominator. That’s what I do and it matters not if I get a comment in return. I follow about 150 blogs but I can only comment on a few. Now I’d decided that I’ll not comment at all so that I can work on my own blog.

    I’m so glad that you are getting a favorable response from the needle sticks. I need to find a needle sticker and maybe I’ll get over this dizzy-Lizzie feeling. 🙂

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    • Yes, I did understand your double talk Yvonne, but both are rather apt concerning my posts 😀
      You seem to have your blogging under control or at least are getting there.
      I do hope you find a solution to your Dizzy Lizzie my friend.
      Ralph xox ❤

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  10. Maybe you should hire an evil stepmother type as governess for these two hairy “terrorists” – then they would turn on a dime and treat you as you deserve – after a few days they will certainly introduce you to an alternative for the strict governess – start with a cat-eater and end up with a man-eater – perhaps a handsome secretary like the dream type that can sit on your lap and help to blog… 😀 😀 😀

    Your blogging policy sounds reasonable – it can’t be something the cats have found out… 😀 😀 😀

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    • lol. I do love your reasoning all across your first paragraph Drake, especially the secretary which could terminate my blogging for good, or, at least, produce some interesting new posts 😉 Ralph 😀

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  11. HI Ralph,
    How interesting to read the same dialogue that’s been going on over at my blog spread onto your blog. You did a wonderful job on your guest post. Thank you for linking to it here at the top, so your readers can appreciate what a great job you did.
    70 Comments in your first guest post! It doesn’t get much better than that! Thank you again for telling your readers about it.

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    • I did enjoy the Guest Post Janice. Thanks for asking me.

      I needed to tell my readers in this post what I was doing as they needed to know, especially the ones I unfollowed. Most of them are still visiting and some in these comments were very understanding, which is nice to know. Ralph xox ❤

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      • Well, I certainly hope I didn’t put you in an awkward position in any way. I genuinely appreciated your guest posting for me, and so quickly too! As I said, your post was such a hit. 70+ comments spoke volumes. Thanks again.

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  12. Lol your cats are too funny trying to pair you off.
    I do hear you in the blog following it all gets a little to much at times. I had a bit of a cull too and added those I really didn’t want to miss to Bloglovin, that said, the reader has been performing OK ish lately, she says touching wood 🙂

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    • Teehee. Thank you Juls 😀
      You have also worked your time management magic. Well done ! I never ever use the Reader or that silly new notifier in the top right hand corner of the page. I work from emails and the old notifications page
      ( I’m answering you on it now, lucky you 😀 )
      No wood between my ears ! 😀 Ralph xox ❤


    • Welcome. Thank you so much for visiting and commenting Evelyn with those fun words. Ralph xox ❤


  13. There’s only so much time in the world. Even deleting posts you don’t want to read takes up some of it. Stay sane. Read only what you actually want to read.

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    • Hi Ellen. Sorry I am so long in answering your comment (and all the rest on this post). I’ve been out all day and even though it’s midnight here I want to catch up with the comments.
      Time is everything when blogging unless one is a super fast typist, which I’m not ! Thanks for the advice as well. Ralph xox ❤

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      • Which argues for not bothering to apologize for taking a while to reply. That you manage to keep up with this many comments is plenty.

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  14. I wondered how on earth you were coping to follow all your followers! At least with me I am not blogging now -so I am one less to worry about 😉

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    • Awww ! I’ll miss your drawings Wendy, but you need to do what’s best for you. I wish you well with hugs my friend. Ralph xox ❤

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  15. My darling Ralpha…
    1) you should add to look after an adorable man.
    2) the dudes will entirely understand if you are busy. They will always visit you. I have the same probs with blogs these days. That plus the Social meida of writing takes at least an hour every day

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    • Hi shy Shey,
      1) Ha ! That’ll be the day ! My cats would never go for that !
      2) …….andddd you write books …….. anddddddd control your hamstahs 😉
      Ralph xox ❤


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  17. Ralph’s blog makes me laugh and grin 🙂
    I’m taking care of three cats already, but I’m sure someone will come along to help tend yours! Your cats are cute as can be. That white one looks particularly low-maintenance 😉

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    • Heehee. Thanks Joey 😀
      Three cats ! Wow ! What fun !
      Yes, the white cat is the only one that does any work around here by stopping the door slamming shut !
      Ralph xox ❤

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  18. Love the cats. I totally understand on the following thing. In the beginning I followed a few people because they followed me and then realized most never returned and were just trying to up the number of followers they had. So I never follow blogs any more, but instead visit the ones I actually want to read and interact with in likes or comments.

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    • Hi LB. The cats are fun aren’t they ?
      Exactly ! Your method in treating ghost followers is a good one. I have just had a batch of young bloggers following me and that’s it, no likes or comments, just a follow and that’s the last I’ve heard from them.
      Ralph xox ❤


  19. What everyone else said. We all face the same quandries and understand that we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, or favorite place to waste time, or whatever. You do what you have to do to take care of you 🙂

    Smart kitties, but I agree, they need to add more about you. Any woman can be a cat lady (such as me!) 😀

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    • Awww ! #1 Your blog is my favourite place in wasting time and having a cup of tea (joking) …. and I’ve learned so much about Lego. 😀 lol
      Awww ! #2 Cat lady. How sweet !
      Ralph xox ❤


  20. Lol as always Ralph. I have to wonder if you did find the perfect woman, wouldn’t your cats rule the nest anyway? And it was great to see you on my friend Janice’s blog. You see, it was worth visiting me, lol. Always a treat to visit here. 🙂 ❤

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    • Hi Debby 😀
      So true. Cats rule, okay !
      Although it was your fault that I ended up guest posting, I did enjoy the one off experience. So, thank you my friend. Ralph xox ❤

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  21. LOL- totally fitting with cats… (we have four)… making it as much about them as about you. Nice to know you are back putting yourself back out there again.

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    • Four !!!! Wow ! You must make a wonderful slave to them Diahann 😀 Ralph xox ❤


  22. I totally understand Ralph. You and I spoke about this just a short while ago. I love your posts (and kitties, as allergies mean no more cats for me) I always come away smiling from a read. I feel as Pamela does, I’m not offended if someone doesn’t “like for like”, though once someone has shown themselves only a “ghost follower”, I feel much less stressed / guilty about unfollowing them. You have a busy life there, not to worry about us 🙂

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    • Yes, we did speak about this subject Karin. I do remember 😀
      Sorry to read that you are allergic to cats. After this post I may become allergic too 😉 lol
      Guilt about unfollowing gets to most of us I think. Sometimes it has to be done though.
      Have a lovely day my friend. Ralph xox ❤

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  23. Sharks help me maintain sanity. They provide excellent companionship.

    Wonderful post dear Ralph. Too many chortles to count. And excellent guest post!!! Read it last night and thoroughly enjoyed it. Well-done! And VERY helpful.

    All the best to you, with bug hugs,

    Autumn Jade Toad

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    • Hello AJ 😀 Hey ! Where did this “Autumn Jade Toad” toad bit come in ?
      There’s nothing like a canoodle with a shark, is there AJ ?
      So pleased you chortled and thanks for the bug hugs *scratching* 😉
      Ralph xox ❤

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  24. Ralph, just between you & me “Sonic & Samantha, are pretty self-serving aren’t they?” Fancy them, looking for a woman for them, and not for you……Cat’s are all alike, cute but a bit; Me, Me, Me !! Lol 😀

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      • I’ll keep my eye out, for a cat-loving woman, who’d like a life in the sun with you…..any particulars you’re looking for? Or, are you just not; too particular? hehe hehe 😀 ❤

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      • lol. No, nothing in particular ! So long as she’s alive … or tall, blonde and Swedish at a push. Which one are you ? 🙄 ❤

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      • Well, that’s good to know Julie. I don’t need to say, “that’s the spirit then”. Do I ? 😉 ❤

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  25. I’m sure she’s on her way, S&S. Who doesn’t want to be a mommy of two adorable cats and have a s too 😉 Thank you for your support on our moving. That meant a lot to us. Extra Pawkisses for Good Luck 🙂 ❤

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    • I do hope she’s not lost Binky.
      I’m pleased that you all moved okay and I hope you are enjoying your new home. Lots to explore. What fun ! Love S&S&s 😀 xx ❤ ❤

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  26. My Dear Ralph!
    I too have my own way of blogging. We all do.
    Don’t worry! The main ting is to enjoy your friends in blog world.
    For crying out loud, blogging is a fun social thing for many of us, not a job.
    Adore you (& the cats)!!!!
    OH. BTW, on GLaM… would you prefer a “Batman super hero post dedicated…. or a beautiful painted lady post?
    You can have both if you want.
    Much Love,
    Resa xoxox <# ❤ Big Hugs!!!

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    • Whew ! So many comments to reply to before finally reaching yours dear Resa. Yay, made it !

      I agree. Blogging is fun and will stay that way as far as I’m concerned 😀

      Adore you too my friend …….. forget the cats 😉

      Wow, a dedication ! Let’s see. Batman or lady ….. ummm …..lady or Batman ? No contest ! The beautiful painted lady, so long as it’s you Resa. Don’t get smudged too soon 😉 lol

      Much love back. Ralph xoxox #< ❤ Big hugs back !!!


  27. 😀 You guys are a riot. So glad to see you are taking such good care of your daddy. Hey, Ralphie… I went over and read your guest post on not being overwhelmed by blogging and staying sane. I need to take that advice. I’m such an old softie, I hate unfollowing, so I did what you said wasn’t fair–I went no emails on all but a few of my blog buddies. I was getting over 4 thousand emails a day. No way could I continue to cope with that. I’m still officially on hiatus, but if/when I’m back on schedule, I may seriously consider your way of blogging. Love you, hug bunny. Take care of yourself and those lovely cats. ❤ ❤

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  28. Wondered about that line of women outside of your place. Must have been thirty or more. Those cats of yours are going to have a difficult time choosing.

    Great post by the way!

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  29. Hi Ralph, you are looking rather dapper, I almost didn’t recognise you. Thanks for your continued support with my http://www.quirkybooks.wordpress.com blog and my http://www.youtube.com/quirkybooksTV channel – I love receiving those thumbs up from you, it keeps me motivated and smiling that someone is always enjoying them. I have an unboxing video soon, of my Yeti Mic, and I can tell you, you will laugh your socks off at me stroking the mic part way through, I couldn’t do nothing but laugh at it during playback.

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  30. Ralph, you and the girls are just too cute! I see the stonefaced white kitty chimed in today. What’s her name?
    Hope there’s a good response to your advert! lol
    Thanks so much for saying about unfollowing and the emails. I’m doing a massive clean out as well. Always need more sanilty! It’s scarce around here, too!
    And your blog always provides laughter, which is a necessary ingredient of sanity for me!

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  31. E frumos sa vezi ca cineva s-a gandit la tine, e frumos sa vezi ca, desi nu cunosti real pe nimeni, se leaga prietenii virtuale pline de frumusete…este usor sa te gandesti ca toti prietenii virtuali care iti trimit comentarii … se gandesc la tine, e frumos si parca nu te mai simti singur. Iti multumesc prieten drag, ca pentru o clipa te gandesti la mine si ca vrei sa imi faci o bucurie. Toti avem prieteni, toti avem cunostinte, dar viata, de multe ori, nu ne lasa sa luam legatura cu ei de cate ori vrem, aici in fiecare dimineata si seara ne salutam cu impresii si imagini virtuale. E FRUMOS si PLACUT daca totul e civilizat si cu bun simt! O seara minunata dragi mei!

    It’s nice to see that someone thought about you, it’s nice to see that even though you do not know anyone real, virtual friendships full of beauty … is easy to think that all your virtual friends send comments … think of you is beautiful and if you never feel alone. Thank you dear friend, that for a moment and think of me as you do me a joy. We all have friends, we all have knowledge but life often leaves us to make contact with them whenever we want, here every morning and evening greeting impressions and virtual images. It’s beautiful and pleasant if everything is civilized and good sense! A wonderful evening my dear!

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  32. Hi Ralph, I’m just getting back to you in regards to our last conversation where you told me that you had stopped following me because I not only posted at least once a day but sometimes more than once a day and it was just too much for you to keep up with.
    I have thought about what you shared and to be honest I feel that your decision and reasoning is somewhat negative towards me and my blog.
    I never expected you to even acknowledge all of my posts let alone like them or comment on them. All that I ever expected is that you showed support by being a loyal follower and WHENEVER YOU HAD TIME to visit my posts and like and comment as you see fit.
    I’m sorry that you don’t feel that you are able to continue showing surprising lives your general support by simply remaining a loyal follower.

    Best Wishes, Amanda

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    • Oh boy ! You are the third I have upset Amanda. I’m re-following and am going to have re-evaluate how I deal with my Inbox emails. Ralph xox ❤

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      • I’m sorry to give you such a hard time. I admit I was rather harsh. But you have been such a wonderful and supportive follower of mine for quite awhile​ it was upsetting to think of you no longer being an official follower!
        Just turn your email notifications off and then when you have time drop by and visit. How does that sound? ❤

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      • No, you weren’t harsh Amanda, just upset. I am still going to be an honest follower and visit your posts. Not hide behind “email off”. Have a lovely weekend. 😀 ❤

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      • Oh, relax. Now I’ll hesitate everytime I go to post in case I’m bothering you!!!! Just kidding. Glad to have you back.

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  34. You’re totally right to do what YOU want to do, I stopped with blogging because also of one of these reasons because it was me who felt to satisfied also the blogs of the others but after a while it became to much and I was realise that I could spend my precious time in an other way ! Your cats are so sweet and smart is it because they look like their daddy ?? 🙂

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    • It does become too much especially if you have a full life to live as well. It’s nice to see you visit and comment though Serach. Have a lovely evening my friend. Ralph xox ❤

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  35. Hm…I’ve innocently had “e-mails off” with everyone since the get go. Guess ignorance is bliss, eh???? I wondered how you were keeping up with the NUMBERS, Kiddo. Your precious time and energy is YOUR time and energy – to be used the way you want to, eh? You stop by when and IF you want to and I will NEVER, EVER think anything less of you, dear man. I don’t read everyone’s blogs that I “follow” all the time and barely have time to check in with the few that I do, some days…..You will always have my love, Ralph…always……be well, little buddy. Am so, so glad that you are taking care of YOU!!!!!! ❤ 🙂

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    • Thank you for your long and interesting comment Lucie. At least I know how you “sort of” Follow. I’ve cut back to 47 now mainly because I am getting more Likes & Comments which take up most of my blogging time, especially the visits I make after. I think I’ve hit a good balance now with less pressure. Have a lovely rest of the week my friend. Ralph xox ❤

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  36. “My eyes are glazed over.” I see what you did there. 😀 Blessings on your search. I see many lonely female bloggers with cats. I hope for a blended family soon.

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    • Hi Kim 😀 lol.
      I agree about many female bloggers around with cats. Shame they live on the other side of the universe from me. Ralph xox ❤


  37. You are somethin’ else dear Ralph. 🙂
    I’m with you on blogs & visits.
    It’s not easy to keep up.
    I started doing something similar to what you do as far as visiting other blogs.
    Gotta’ give props & time to those that take the time to think about & visit me too.
    xx Saludos y Abrazos xx

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    • Hi RoSy 😀
      Sorry I am so late in replying. I’m taking a break from posting and taking it easy for a couple of weeks. I need it !
      Take care my friend. Ralph xox ❤

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    • Thank you MVBFM. So are you 🙂 Ralph xox ❤

      PS. Whew ! That's all your comments answered. I must take a rest ( in a museum perhaps 😉 )

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