Sometimes I come to a point where I have to make a decision and this is such a moment.
I have reached a dead end ……
….. and said to myself, “Enough is enough !”
For the past year or so I have been banging my head on a brick wall ……
…… and getting absolutely nowhere.
Wherever I look …….
….. I just can’t find a resolution. So, I quit !
What am I talking about ?
So with the help of some local and blogging friends, this one blogging friend in particular …..
……. who made this lovely comment the other day ……
….. I have decided to stop looking, even thinking about it any more.
It’s been an uphill struggle ….
So it’s time to let it go.
I don’t really think I am mongoose ……
……ummm…. monogonomonous ! A one woman man even !
Because I love you all wherever in the whole wide world you may be !
For me, life is good …….
…… I have everything I need, lovely friends and neighbours, an apartment I am happy with ……
……set in mountain country of southern Spain.
So why go hunting ……
…… clubbing ?
And why should I continue torturing myself …..
…….on the off chance of a woman coming into my life which I may regret ?
I told you Ralph ! You don’t listen !
Shut up Ralph I’m talking !
(please shoot me someone ! )
I class my local friends and neighbours as cherished family.
I also cherish my blogging family.Β
Blogging friends made over the last couple of years. Friends who I laugh with, cry with, vacation with. Friends who visit me and I them. Friends who suffer. Friends with skills. Friends alone.
You are my family and I am going to have fun with you !
Ralph xox β€
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Women?! Oh, yes! Oh,no! Happy Thanksgiving, my friend!
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Hi JF π
Women ? Oh, I agree my friend.
Happy Thanksgiving to you too. In our Spanish village we don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, but today is “Heck. Is It Only Wednesday ?” day π Ralph π
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When you are lost, it is better to stand still and let them find you. Maybe that only works when you are in a mall. IDK.
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Hi Katie π
What a great idea. Loiter with intent ! If I stood still in a mall they’ll either paint me white or call the medics π
Happy Hugs. Ralph xox β€
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Loiter with intent…luv it! Thats what i will tell the officer next time. π 8)
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NEXT TIME ??? Okay. I won’t ask ! π
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Good on ya, Ralph! Sometimes things just happen for a reason, so maybe for now you’re meant to be available for all of us internet floozies/groupies who love you! π But, who knows what’s around that next bend in the road?
Hugs, mate. oxo β€
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Hello Yvonne π
See ! I’m free now ! I am available to play ! Big hug my friend. Ralph xox β€
.Bend in the road ? Ooops!
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Whee!!!
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I am sending you several hugs and also, hoping you celebrate Thanksgiving there. If not, will hope you have a wonderful gathering, since you seem to always have fun parties. Muchas gracias, mi amigo para felicidades a mi. Well, I tried to say thanks for the joy you give to me!
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Hi Robin π
Nope ! It’s quiet here. No Thanksgiving ! I hope you have a lot of fun on the other side of the pond. Deafen me here in Spain !
Love and hugs to you my friend. Ralph xox β€
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I know how you fell…I am alone too…It is a harsh thing being so so alone…Maybe she is out side of your window and suddenly she is appears…But only for give you the best…For doing god things to you…Because you deserve be happy…
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Hello Mirna π
It’s gone 2am here and I really wanted to reply to you before shutting down for the night as I didn’t want you to wait for a response. I really do understand your loneliness as it must be so much more difficult for a woman to be on her own. I really do hope in your case it is temporary and that you will soon find that special friend who will bring back the happiness that you surely are.
A big hug and love from Spain. Ralph xox β€
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YOU ARE VERY COOL PERSON.. Thanks for that message. Hugs back…
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Well, your comment really touched me Mirna and I just wanted you to know that I do care. π β€
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I guess just leave it to its own course and not too worry about it. That might be the best. Have fun.
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Hello YC π I guess you may be right. Let’s see what happens. Ralph π
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Oh Ralph! Carolyn is a very insightful person. I value her words.
So, I’m one of the women in your long line of adorers here on line. I always knew that. β€
Hope you don't mind if I keep on teasing and joking around. You are just so much fun!
Sometimes things are found when we are not looking.
Much warmth, adoration and internet family love to you, Ralph!
Resa xoxoxox β€ & especially #< (our little secret)
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Hello Resa π
Sorry I am so long in responding, but I’m here at last !
Carolyn is one blogger I do listen to and I equally value her.
There is no line my dear friend only individuals who I try to treat equally and all are special, especially you. β€
I want you to have fun with me Resa as I know your situation and you need fun time as I do. Play on !
Your last sentence is so sweet. Thank you. Ralph xoxox β€ #<
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I am fairly new to your blog so was unaware you were in this position but might I chime in?
I have a great deal of experience with being alone. I divorced in 1999 and have been alone ever since. By alone I mean not even being asked out on one date by even one man.
Somewhere around 2005 I decided the universe must need me alone for reasons of which I am unaware. Most days it doesn’t bother me a whit but every once in a while I wonder why me? I am smart, funny and incredibly friendly..I love new experiences, meeting new people and make friends very easily. I can’t explain why others have such an easy time attracting the opposite sex and some of us don’t.
My advice? live your life just as you’re doing..enjoy the activities you love most and never worry about doing them alone! Hell, I’m even taking an extended trip of Europe all by myself this March strictly because I have no one to worry about leaving and it’s something I’ve always dreamed of doing.
Sorry this is so long, but I could tell from the first day I read your posts that you are an interesting and very fun person. If women haven’t found that valuable thus far it is totally their loss!
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Hello Karen π
Wow ! Where do I start ! You are always welcome to chime in π
Thank you for telling your story. Not one date ? wow ! I feel the same, maybe I should be alone for now for some reason. Yep ! I agree to just carry on as I am.
Well done in going for it. A European trip should be just what you need. I spent 2 weeks in Jerusalem in July this year on my own, but soon met some lovely people and enjoyed the experience even though the Gaza war was on then. I hope you have a lovely time.
I love your last sentence. Thank you. Ralph xox β€
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just roll with life and those who care about you will continue to roll with you, including all of us, your blogworld groupies ))
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Hello Beth π
Seems like a lot of rolling going on but I like that ! Thanks my friend and have a lovely Thanksgiving. Ralph xox β€
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I accidentally used the term “future ex-husband” in front of my boss today when talking about not having Thanksgiving plans. She kept talking and then backed up to confirm that’s what I said. π
In other words, I feel your pain.
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Hello Not π An “uh oh” moment then ! I’m feeling your pain now ! Ralph xox β€
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You have such a great sense of humour Ralph and just look at all your fans!! My oh my!! I don’t know how you do it to reply to every comment and the fact that you take the time to comment on our blogs too, shows how kind and considerate you are. It must be a full-time job to keep up with your online harem!!
Some wise words I once heard …
It’s better to want something you don’t have than to have something you don’t want!
β€ carmen xo
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Hello Carmen π Thank you. I have made almost 8000 replies over the 2 1/2 years. I like to answer as they have put themselves out to comment and generally it’s fun for me to reply, like now π
I love the quote ….. so apt ! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family my friend. Ralph xox β€
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I live in Canada and we already celebrated Thanksgiving in October, the Americans are late! π But I suppose it’s good to be thankful everyday, not just once a year!
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Ooops ! My mistake ! I was sure that you had celebrated but I keep getting Happy Thanksgiving comments. Thanks for clearing up my confused brain dear friend. β€
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Maybe you are right to stop looking, but the leave the door open ‘cos you just never know who is going to arrive on the next train….. π xxxxx
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Hi Wendy π Yes, I think it’s right to stop. Keeps me sane …… somewhat π
Okay. I’ll leave the door open. Drat. The cats are out ! π Ralph xox β€
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You are soooooooo nice π Blessing and Happiness dear Ralph. Thanks and Love, nia
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Hello Nia π You are so lovely to say all those things. Big hug. Ralph xox β€
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This was a very entertaining post… and an interesting blog site. Hope “She” surprises ya. Peace.
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Hello Loujen π Welcome to my blog ! Thank you for your great comment. If there is a “she”, now that would be a surprise π Ralph π
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As I say and it says that on my stairs – happiness comes from within… not a woman… You are blessed with the friends you have in Spain, as I saw and the bloggerfriends. You live in a beautiful spot, cherish every day there, not everybody is that fortunate. enjoy , take it easy and be yourself. Being single doesn’t mean alone, it means freedom too which is priceless! Ralph you are loved !
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Hello Ute π
Before I forget, happy 21st to your boy ! Wow, time flies !
That’s right, I agree, happiness comes from within. Maybe I am meant to be as I am in a happy place ! My friends still ask about you, so you did impress them π
That’s also true. I am free with no need to compromise. There are so many plus and minus to take into account. Love and hugs my friend. Ralph xox β€
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Thanks so much Ralph! β₯
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John Lennon once said something like βAs usual, there is a great woman behind every idiot.β – I thought about these words here – you are as I see it a lucky man – so my friend you aren’t a idiot – so be happy… π π π
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Hi Drake π Heehee ! So all male politicians are married then ? Love your comment my friend. Ralph π
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Hello Ralph, you know that I like you and love to come to your blog because of your fun and intelligent mind ! Love your laugh in your face and how you see the world, youβre in a view words adorable and I wished that we were neighbours too so I could invite you so every now and then for to chat, shop or eat ! And you never now when you can expect a new phone-call of me ………………………:) π !
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Hello Serach π Wow. What a lovely comment from you my friend, you are so sweet. Ralph xox β€
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So fantastic and love to watched this video !! Call me Ralph ………………:) π !
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Yay…worth waiting for this today! And you never know Ralpha, sometimes it is when you give up try8ing for something that it happens!! xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Hey Shey π Worth waiting for ? Umm ! π
I’ve given up trying ……… nothing is happening ! Nope ! Nothing ! Sonic threw up a fur ball ….. does that count ? π
Hugs to you wee lassie. Ralph xox β€
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Hmmmm…Looking into crystal ball here…..The omens are auspicious
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Wow ! That sounds …..umm…..auspicious ! I must cross your palm with a piece of silver. You can’t have it, but I’ll cross your palm with it π β€
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Ralpha…that is so kind……… But then again, my darling I don’t blame you for being suspicious!!! hugs x
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My granny used to say – there is a lid for every pot!! You will find your lid one day π
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Hello ArtistinSA π Love your granny’s saying ! I keep dropping my pot though π Ralph π
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There too much to live for ,the smiles the ,thoughts and friendship.Hope everything is well.Happy thanksgiving.
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Hello Jalal π So true ! And I welcome every one π
Happy Thanksgiving to you. I hope you are not travelling as I have just seen the news about the US travel disruptions. Ralph π
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Hi Ralph ,the whole family will be at our home .Hope you thanksgiving be blissful.J.M
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Fantastic π
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I am a firm believer that we should expect the unexpected. When you are the most oblivious to this desire, that’s when it will nab you good! And Ralph, you are so very nabable!
Be good now,
Stephanie
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Hello Stephanie π Fantastic comment from you my friend. On your advice I shall become oblivious …… no change there then ! You are a sweetheart. Ralph xox β€
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Just look at all the sweet hearts you have. It would break your girlfriend’s heart reading all these beautiful love notes because the love expressed in them is real. We all love and adore you MFR. You are fun, funny, smart, and fabulous. Enjoy being you.
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Hello Marsha MVBF π Wow ! β What a wonderful comment ! I am overwhelmed with your beautiful words. Thank you !
This comment of yours is the last one to answer tonight. My Inbox is empty. I have visited all the new posts. All is good ! Happy Thanksgiving my friend. Ralph xox β€
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We β€ you!
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Hi Ivy π
I β€ U 2
Ralph xox β€
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wow – just amazing and cheerful!
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Hi Mihran π Wow ! What a lovely comment. Thank you. Ralph π
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Bravo my friend. I’m glad you realized you had the power all along, like “Dorothy” in the Wizard of Oz – there’s no place like home. You have friends and plenty of women who care about you. Feel the love and gratitude and who knows, one day when you aren’t thinking about it, someone may appear. xo π
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Hi Debby π Well, you never know. Maybe you are right and someone will appear. It’s wonderful that you and others are caring. Thank you so much my friend. Ralph xox β€
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I hope all your wishes come true… π»
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Hello Michelle π May I wish you the same my friend. Ralph xox β€
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Live your life to the fullest and whatever happens happens.
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Hello LB π I love that quote of yours. Will do ! Ralph xox β€
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I totally agree with Carmen’s quote. Often time, good things come your way when you’re not even looking for them, so don’t lose heart, just have faith. π xx
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Hi Sylvia π Why have women got sensible heads on their shoulders ? π Ralph xox β€
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We have to compensate for you guys. π x
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I wish you a wonderful weekend and happiness, Ralph!
What is yours comes to you at the right time! π
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Hello Εtefania π Thank you so much my friend. Ralph xox β€
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Glad you realize how much you are appreciated, Ralph – even from the other side of the world by all your friends here.
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Hello Diahann π You are so sweet ! Thank you my friend. Ralph xox β€
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Ralph, thanks for your visit to my blog site and liking the About Me post! Come back anytime, especially to the Welcome Page Sunset Gallery for a peaceful visit. It took a long time to get to the Your comments!! A lot of support for you along the way. Just saying, you live in mountain country in So. Spain, so limited opportunity to meet “women?” Probably live a wonderful, tranquil nature-oriented life. Why mess that up! Unless you find someone in the field who won’t change the furniture, hang flowered curtains and take over your kitchen and your life, then just stay happy, with full meaning in your life every day! Anyway, you’re a great blogger and I love your site. You put a lot of creative thought into it. What’s the meaning of the title Bluefish Way?
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Hello Christine π I’ll answer your final question first. I did publish a post last year which you would never have found about my blog name. The comments there are now closed.
https://bluefishway.com/2013/10/11/how-i-got-the-name-of-bluefish-way/
Thank you so much for visiting and adding your very long comment so full of advice. I really must listen !
Have a lovely week. Ralph xox β€
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Ralph, I love the Bluefish blog name post! What a beautiful wind chime. I did copy it to enjoy looking at it. If it ends up in a blog post, your name will be on it. Also if you have a sunset photo, please let me know. I’ll put it in the Sunset Gallery, again with your name on it. Well…take my advice or not. I just know some seemingly great relationships look good at the start and then go south faster than a flock of birds in winter. You have great writing skills with added humor and that needs to be promoted. Have you thought of writing a book?
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You are very welcome to take anything I have posted Christine. My philosophy is once published it’s gone out into the wide world and is not mine any more. If I don’t want something taken then I don’t post it. So the blue fish is yours to do what you will.
I live in a valley surrounded by hills and mountains and it’s very rare to see a sunset here. It’s either blue skies or solid cloud. I know I have one rare local sunset photograph……. somewhere !!!
Many bloggers have suggested I write a book. I really have no excuse or reasons why not. Maybe I should have a go.
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Ralph, one thing you have is time! And you have an audience of supportive blogger friends! Something to think about…where would your story start if you were to write it? If you find the sunset, let me know. I can copy it from your site. I’ve borrowed sunsets from world-wide fellow bloggers. They are all in the sunset Gallery. Love showcasing them.
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Yes. I do have time and I may have to make room by backing off from blogging. You should have got the sunset photo by now. I’ll have a look at your gallery π
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I just looked at my emails and got the sunset photo. I’m on my way with it to the Sunset Gallery. It will be showcased in a about five minutes! Thank you soooo much for spending the time to find it. I did crop it to feature the sunset and not your desk. Hope that’s OK! Yes, you’ll have to back off so much blogging to write the book. I’ll tell you in my email back to you how I managed that.
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Sunset is there! And just sent the email! Happy blogging & writing (?)
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Thank you my friend. I have seen it and it fits in your gallery very well. π
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Forgot…thanks for the Bluefish OK…it really is magnificent!
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