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What I am about to say may seem rather obvious, but don’t forget that there were weeks of lovey-dovey talk between Tammy and myself, usually between midnight and 4am my time (6 hour difference in Ottawa, Canada) which blurred my vision of what was really going on.
I hinted in my last post of my online dating disaster. Over 3 months I…….
………have been duped into handing over my love, emotions and a few thousand euros to:
3 months ago I published my profile on Senior Dating Agency – Spain and was pounced on by a 41 year old. Wow !
She offered me:
That she would drive (I don’t for medical reasons)
That she was a brilliant cook and baker (yummy !)
That she would live with me in Spain and sleep with me
That she wants her breast on my chest at night (I hope it’s not as furry as Sonic’s who sleeps with me)
That she speaks Spanish perfectly (Toni, my Spanish neighbour even spoke to her on Yahoo Messenger)
That she would care for and look after me
That she had a 4 year old boy, Tony, (age changed to 7 in later weeks) who is a soccer fanatic
That she wanted to spend her life with me forever.
American Gas needed new carpeting for 20+ floors of office space in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. She was trained in a factory in Thailand for 3 years on all aspects of carpets. Her bid was accepted by American Gas to supply and install the carpets throughout the building. Big job ! She lived in a hotel while her son stayed in England with her mom.
That she was lonely
Within a few days she lost her wallet with credit card
She had problems paying her workers
She was constantly unable to pay her hotel bill or eat.
That her laptop was old with no camera and her Texan business cell phone camera was broken. So I could not Skype or phone (as it would be too expensive)
She said she was 41 and her birth year is 1971. Duh !
I wanted proof of who she was
She sent me two photographs (which could of been anywhere) of her with her carpets (which were rugs) and of her in her hotel room. I am not going to show them as she maybe, just may be is 0.0001% real ! I also spoke to her mom on the phone (big mistake !).
Tammy’s Big Mistakes
She was always delaying in coming to me in Spain. When the supply of the carpets was finished the company inspector found approx. 400 rolls of carpet to be substandard and had to be replaced. Over time they were. American Gas paid her for both the supply and installation at the end of the supply. What big company would do that ? What follows is me being allowed access into her online bank account in the UK. This is the Conversation History of Yahoo Messenger. I have not shown the access codes etc. in case she is 0.000001% real.
Tammy: Hi baby,
Tammy: Are you there??
RALPH: Hi sweetheart. You are up early ? How are you and how are things going ? I love you and miss you.
Tammy: I miss you too baby, things is going fine baby..
RALPH: Are you eating well ?
Tammy: Not really baby, but am fine..
Tammy: Thank you for been caring.
RALPH: You are my adoration. I want to care about you as you are special to me and always will be. I hope you will get something substantial to eat today
Tammy: i hope you are also eating well baby
RALPH: Yes. I am eating better now.
Tammy: baby i told you i do not have money over the weekend,
RALPH: You have some money now. Yes ?
RALPH: When you are here you can eat as much as you want
Tammy: When i got to the Company yesterday, they said i can get cash so they transfer the money into my account in Uk i have been trying to check my account but i could not check my account, the company email me they already transfer the money but i was not happy to come online because i cant send your money to you.
RALPH: Oh sweetie. Don’t worry about my money ! Always come online if you can. I am not worried about the money. It’s you I am worried about. I hope it’s in your account today so that you can eat. It’s a shame they didn’t give you a few hundred to see you right.
Tammy: Baby please i want you to please help me check my account…
RALPH: How ? I have no authority.
Tammy: click on this link..
Tammy: then click on log on
Tammy: let me know when you need my Access ID and Pin
RALPH: I am there. Can’t you do it yourself ?
Tammy: its not going here, i would have check it my self, please help me try it..
Tammy: have you click on the link?
RALPH: Okay. Yes I am in there now.
Tammy: have you click on log on
RALPH: I need ID and pin
Tammy: ID tammy@@@@@@@ Pin: @@@@@@
RALPH: Question Place of birth
Tammy: click on my Online Statement..
RALPH: Okay. I’m in
Tammy: what is my account Balance
RALPH: Available £360,143.30
RALPH: The transfer happened 02/06/2014
Tammy: Ok baby, They Email me £350,143.30 is Transfer into my account, Baby i could not get cash and i could not transfer money into the other account in Canada that was why they transfer into my account in UK, Am not just happy now because i did not eat good over the weekend..
RALPH: They transferred £347,000. You already had £3,153.50 in your account
RALPH: Do you want me to Print Scan this account summary and email it to you ?
Tammy: yes Please baby.. Thank you so much..
RALPH: Okay. brb. Need to go to the loo
Tammy: yes i had the 3,153 before i lost my wallet
Tammy: ok baby..
RALPH: Email on the way
Tammy: i got it baby, Thank you so much, i have try to contact my bank about my card but it will have to take me more than a week, i hate this delay baby and i have no money with me now, i feel not happy..
RALPH: Can’t you take the attachment to your Canada bank and get them to give you a short term loan
RALPH: or ask them to contact your bank for a transfer
Tammy: I already close the account because they told me i wont be able to recieve any more transfer, Baby i dont know what to do now, i try to talk to the workers today about the installation,
RALPH: Wow. You are stuck !!
Tammy: yes baby, i was with the worker all day yesterday, i try to convince then to work and i will pay them when i get to Uk, i told them the company said they will transfer my payment and i cant get my payment now until i get to Uk, but they said if i can come up with part of there money they will help me and as soon as i get to Uk i will transfer them there balance..
RALPH: Is there an HSBC bank where you are ?
RALPH: You could work with them to solve this
Tammy: i dont know but i think it will take a long process and i cant wait anylonger to be with you, i really want is to start the Installation today baby..
Tammy: I have my money in my account, i can get it when i get to Uk, i really cant wait to be with you, i wont want any more delay.
RALPH: Okay sweetie. You know what you are doing. Thanks for trusting me with your account
RALPH: That really bonds us
RALPH: I can’t wait to be with you here
Tammy: Baby i trust you with all my Life, Baby can you loan me some money to pay the wokers, they said if i can pay then half of there payment they will finish up the installation and they will also do night shift so much the work faster, i promise them i will add estra for them..
RALPH: I can’t today, my bank on the coast closes in 50 minutes. How much do you need ?
RALPH: I would go to HSBC if I was you as I can’t send you money as you have closed your account in Canada
RALPH: You should be able to draw what you need from HSBC
RALPH: Same bank !!
RALPH: They will debit your UK account
Tammy: i need to pay 20 workers 2,000 each, for the installation, i will need 20,000 to pay the workers and when i come over to you, we will get the money together and i you will have your money, i dont know if you have the whole 20,000 how much can you help me with please i do not want any more delay, i wish we already start the laying now so i can be with you soon..
Tammy: i cant wait to be in your arms..
RALPH: No. I can’t do that amount !
Tammy: baby your best if all am asking for, i will give you back as soon as we are together, Baby i want to be with you less than 2weeks, i cant wait to be with you.
RALPH: Even if I could. I have nowhere to send it to
RALPH: Go to HSBC sweetheart !!
Tammy: i will have to talk to my Uncle
Tammy: Baby if there is a way you can loan me the money, i will be glad because it will be faster than waiting baby, we will be able to resolve my card together when i get over to you when we go to say help to mom and also meet my son..
Tammy: Just tell me how much you can help me with from the 20,000 when i get over to you we will solve it out together..
RALPH: I can’t do it Tammy. You are not listening. I cannot send you 20,000 ! There is no bank account in Canada ! Go to HSBC !
Tammy: Am not asking you to send me the whole money, i do not have any money with me even right here…
Tammy: i did not eat yesterday, got just friut, i did not want to come online to tell you this, i wanted to solved eveything myself then when am done i will contact you and let you know when am coming home to you but i feel i should tell you what am going through if you could help me
Tammy: how much you can help me with, i do not have any money right now.
RALPH: I cannot help you with anything. You have closed your account in Canada. I would love to feed you, cuddle you, but I am helpless.
Tammy: i said i will talk to Uncle and you will send it to his account and he can western union it to me.
Tammy: You should be able to send western union now since this is another month, you should be able to send this month, Please baby help me, i will give it to you back..
Tammy: i know you want to help me baby, please try your best for me , i know as soon as we are together everything will be fine..
RALPH: I can’t help you sweetheart. Go to HSBC. They will check your account and give you all that you need today ! It’s simple !
Tammy: Ok do not worry i will be fine..
RALPH: I am worried. Worried that you are not eating. Worried that you have no cash on you. Worried that I can’t help you. Worried that because I can’t help you I may not ever see you.
Tammy: i will try all my best and i will come to spain to meet you..
Tammy: You are part of me, i want to spend the rest of my life with you.
RALPH: Whew. I was really thinking that you were going to ditch me because of this. I love you so much
RALPH: I am not rich, but I have a good income coming in every month
RALPH: more than enough for my needs and it would be enough for the 3 of us if you had to depend on me
RALPH: it would be tight but we could do it
Tammy: Baby you have been there for me when i needed you, i would have lot to check the HSBC here but it far from here and i do not have any money, i have not even eating and i need money for Taxi, it might take a long process because i have alot of bills need to be paid, i do not want to depend on you baby, i want to suport you, if you can send me some money for Taxi and food,
RALPH: If I could slot a €50 note into this laptop I would without hesitation. Everything closes here in 15 minutes.
Tammy: you can try western union now so i can check HSBC AND GET SOME FOOD..
Tammy: This is a new month, you can send western union to me, it will work please try, if it work lucky me and i get get some food
Last message received on 03/06 at 13:41
RALPH: I have phoned 2 people to give me a lift. None are available. When you come here you will understand fully how Spain works. In ten minutes everything shuts down. I want to help. I have been through all this with you before. I need time to arrange things as I live in the mountains. If you need cash now, your uncle is your best option. I want to help you so much, but I can’t sweetheart.
I believe that she wanted to be isolated from accessing the account and that I would take the fall if something went wrong. I reckon the £347,000 is either drug money or money stolen from idiots like myself. I have sent all this information I have to HSBC Fraud Dept. to cover myself.
Tammy’s Mom. Mistake #2
A week or so ago I received a text from, then, an unknown Karen asking me to ask Tammy to contact Tammy’s brother John (her brother ?) as Karen wanted to wish her boyfriend John a happy birthday.
Karen and I got talking on Yahoo Messenger. She had been talking to John for 4 years and still is. She sent him money, Ipad and presents etc. paid for from her housekeeping money. I had sent money to Tammy via Western Union (normally to Ottawa, Ontario, Canada, but one weird one to St John, New Brunswick, Canada, where Tammy said she was broke and got a job baking which she hated and wanted to get back to Ottawa) and to two different bank accounts. One being to Tammy’s uncle Gaston Leroux near where Karen lived in the north of England. I mentioned that I spoke to Tammy’s mom. Bombshell !
03 Aug 2014 Yahoo Messenger
6:33:55 PM ralph.whillier: Tammy has shown me her online bank account, which was also a plus for reality.
6:33:59 PM karenjohn: He sent me couple of pics of her so will try and find them and send to ur email and u tell me if same pics u have of her is that a deal?
6:34:44 PM ralph.whillier: Yes. You are psychic. I was going to ask you if you had any of Tammy.
6:35:48 PM ralph.whillier: I have many that she sent me
6:36:26 PM karenjohn: I just hope he hasn’t been lying to me and being a keyboard warrior and black otherwise my world will fall apart never felt like this about any man as I always get pissed about sorry for saying that
6:36:55 PM karenjohn: I just hope the pics I have is of the man who has taken all my love and affection
6:37:00 PM ralph.whillier: I understand and I feel the same about Tammy
6:37:50 PM ralph.whillier: She’s all promises, problems and asking for money
6:38:23 PM ralph.whillier: I do hope she is real
6:38:42 PM ralph.whillier: And I hope your man is real too
6:38:52 PM ralph.whillier: I’m glad we talked
6:39:51 PM karenjohn: The same here but when u mentioned Tommy I was waiting for u to mention as John told me he is about 4 yr old and none of family knew about him?
6:40:12 PM karenjohn: So am I
IM Aug 3, 2014 6:56:47 PM
6:40:33 PM ralph.whillier: Tony ?
6:40:49 PM ralph.whillier: or Tommy ?
6:40:49 PM karenjohn: Aye that’s right sorry
6:40:56 PM ralph.whillier: okay
6:41:11 PM ralph.whillier: Tammy says he is 7
6:41:42 PM karenjohn: No its my fone it comes up with the first word which I sent and not checked
6:41:50 PM karenjohn: Bloody hell
6:42:16 PM ralph.whillier: Tony is staying with her mum in Newcastle
6:44:16 PM karenjohn: Did she tell u that
6:47:13 PM ralph.whillier: Yes. And I spoke to her mum once on the phone. Mary. 7……………..8 if that will help you.
6:49:30 PM karenjohn: Ok
6:50:01 PM ralph.whillier: Tammy doesn’t want me to talk to her
6:50:18 PM karenjohn: Has she replied to u
6:50:32 PM ralph.whillier: Who Tammy ?
6:50:38 PM karenjohn757: Yes
6:50:51 PM ralph.whillier: Nothing today
6:52:22 PM ralph.whillier: When I spoke to her mum we talked okay and when I asked after Tony she said he was asleep
6:53:17 PM ralph.whillier: I wasn’t suspicious of Tammy after that call weeks ago, but lately I am
6:53:50 PM karenjohn: Ralph I hate to tell u this but it was me u spoke to
6:54:11 PM karenjohn: What the hell is going on
6:54:15 PM ralph.whillier: WHAT !!
6:54:22 PM karenjohn: Exactly
6:54:30 PM ralph.whillier: Why ?
6:54:58 PM ralph.whillier: Why did I speak to you ?
6:55:06 PM karenjohn: He was telling me what to say
6:55:15 PM ralph.whillier: Who ?
6:55:24 PM karenjohn: John
6:55:39 PM ralph.whillier: That’s it…….a scam
6:56:20 PM karenjohn: She was messaging him and he was relaying messages to me for what to say to u I’m sorry but has to be said
6:56:47 PM ralph.whillier: So Tammy must have told John. They are the same person or gang
IM 03 Aug 2014 7:19:57 PM
6:57:13 PM karenjohn: Please don’t send no more money as this is getting confusing and weird
6:58:45 PM karenjohn: U don’t need to talk to me anymore we r both now in the dark with all this don’t mention anything to her until or if she contacts me and I will forward anything to u via email or here unless u block me
6:58:50 PM ralph.whillier: Okay. I’ve got all Tammy’s messages, transfers etc and I’ll send all I have off to the RCMP (police) in Canada. Do you want me to put your name in there somewhere?
6:59:48 PM karenjohn: No don’t do that I will now ignore john if he ever gets in contact and I will challenge her
7:00:17 PM ralph.whillier: Yes. Okay. I’ll keep playing along with Tammy if she does talk
7:00:49 PM karenjohn: Ok just we both find out exactly what is going on
7:01:05 PM karenjohn: As something isn’t right at all
7:02:20 PM ralph.whillier: But Tammy isn’t real…..challenging her, she will run. If I keep her talking, the RCMP may catch them in the act through technology
So there is no Tammy’s mom and probably no son Tony (Tammy never talked about the boy or sent me a photo of him). In addition to this I showed Karen the bank account and Karen was shocked as the address on the account was only two doors away from her and a nice frail old couple live there. Another red flag went up as John tells Karen that he regularly visits Nigeria for his work.
So that’s basically it. I’ve totally cut off contact with Tammy. I left a door open to her if she sends me a copy of her passport or rings my doorbell. Meanwhile I have sent everything I have to the police Anti Fraud Centre in Canada and to the HSBC Fraud Dept. in the UK. Karen is still trying to get her money back from John. I have lost thousands. I hope Karma is working and the crooks lose hundreds of thousands.
I forgive them for stealing my money as that can be replaced, but I cannot forgive the use of love for greed and theft.
I have given up online dating and may get a
(The majority of these images were found on a Google Search and are not mine.)
Ralph xox ❤
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