In Limbo !!

Usually a thought for a post just happens. I go with it and a couple of hours later it’s published. On this, my 186th, I am not in the mood for posting at all. My mind is elsewhere. In fact all aspects of my life are in limbo.


Limbo, not limo !!



Medically, they must have run out of tests to do, though I haven’t been asked to disappear yet with a magazine and fill a little specimen cup. I must suggest that !! No more tests I hope. The last one I had, needles with wires were stuck in my head. Ouch !!


The one before, she put a wired up skull cap on my head and covered my hair with silicon which hardened on the 2 hour trip back to my home in Spain. By the time I got in, my hair looked like a punk rocker and took 3 washes to bring back to life my golden grey locks.

So I am in limbo, waiting for the treatments. One will get up my nose and the other, my young female Neurologist will get aggressive with me, she said. That’ll be fun !!


I am also in limbo about what to do with my holidayΒ  to Jerusalem. Should I cancel ? Okay, here’s the Bombshell I promised you.

(Those of you who have pressed Like already. Sorry. You missed this ! And don’t ask silly questions 3 posts in the future !)

Breaking news

Me bad !! ! have not been telling you the whole story of my online dating experience. Within a couple of days of registering I met a 41 year old woman. Yes 41 !! 26 years younger than me !! Wow ! She doesn’t care about age. She is gorgeous, cooks, drives, speaks English and perfect Spanish, wants to do everything for me, has her own business and can work on the phone and internet from here in the mountains of southern Spain, has a young soccer fanatic of a boy, she totally adores me and wants to be with me forever.

Yet, we still have to meet, within days I hope, as she is finishing up a contract in another country. This is why I am in limbo over my holiday. I will have to decide what to do when we meet. So, for the moment, I don’t feel like blogging as Ralphie is in love.







I love you bloggy friend too, but this is different !



Hopefully, I will die happy, or I may have to buy a wheelbarrow of viagra every week !Β  I’m aiming for the latter !



Have you ever been in limbo ?


Ralph xox ❀


(All these images came from Google Search contributors. Thank you. None of them are mine. Even the letters in this post come from the keyboard of my Dell Studio 1558. The design is by WordPress. Windows 7 plus my Firefox browser come into the equation somewhere. So nothing is mine. I do not exist !! It’s all a limbotic illusion !!)

122 Comments on “In Limbo !!

  1. Yay for Ralphie with girlie. Boo to treatments. My daddy likes sugar so much I sometimes see him putting it up his nose.

    Yes I have been in limbo


  2. That’s is exciting, Ralph! I’d wait until you meet the lovely lady before deciding whether to continue on with your trip, if you have the time. Maybe she can go with you?


    • Hello SDHD πŸ˜€ Yes, it is exciting !! There is so much to consider, but the main one is that if we have not met by my flight date she can meet me in Jerusalem. I may have to change my room from a single to a double as using a single bed we would be sleeping on top of each other πŸ˜‰ lol, Ralph xox ❀


      • LOL!!
        So I won’t see you soon… oooohhhhhhh dear Ralph. Naaa, just kiddin. I wish you eternally totally exciting love!! Oops, how is your heart? πŸ˜‰


      • Hi Heila πŸ˜€ I really don’t know yet if I’m coming or not (in the tourist sense πŸ˜‰ ). I have told her that if she is not here or in her home by the day of my departure, I’m coming over to see you my friend. So it’s up to her.
        I like the sound of “eternally totally exciting love”. I need some, well lots and more lots !!
        No idea how my heart is. The doctors say it’s good as new. I’ll need to test that one day. πŸ˜‰
        Love your smile on the beach. Nice to see you happy my friend. I’ll check out your post as soon as I can.
        Ralph xox ❀


  3. Also been in limbo Ralpha so fingers are crossed your limbo will end soon with fab conclusions and this will be the lady for you. Hugs xxx


    • Hi Shey πŸ˜€ I pray you are not in limbo now ! I hope it will work out for us (her and me, not you and me…..ummm !!). Time will tell. Ralph xox ❀


      • Lol Ralpha…behave!! Ummm! I pray this works out fro you. There’s nobody more deserving. She better be good to you though or boy will she suffer the wrath of Shey! xxxxxx


      • Behave ? Me ?

        Oh boy ! The Wrath of Shey ! The sequel to…….

        xoxox πŸ˜€


      • lol..When it comes to wrath we are talking Godzilla unbound…
        Hee hee, she better be good to ya!!! Sure she will be xxxxxxxxxxxxx


      • It’s nice to know what one’s friends are really like when riled ! I’d rather have my Shey back as she was πŸ˜‰


  4. Holy Toledo, Batman, this is just like in the movies! (I was going to use an expression from my recent youth “Bless your withered ding-dongs”, but that didn’t seem apt in this context!) πŸ™‚

    Oh, Ralphie, that’s such a nice bombshell. I join all those who love you to pieces who wish you all the happiness you can cope with. You’re a sly one, aren’t you, keeping this under your hat (and silicone) for so long.

    Big squeezy hugs to you, and nice pats to the cats. oxo ❀


    • Hi Yvonne πŸ˜€ Wow !! What a comment ! I had to keep it quiet for her sake, but in the end I just had to tell you as I was itching to for weeks (must use the cats’ Frontline !! πŸ˜‰ ) Hugs and pats back. Ralph xox ❀


  5. Trust Allah but tie your camel. In other words… be careful Ralphie. Stay grounded and wait until you meet her. I do not mean to be a downer but just relax and take time to get to know her. Sometimes people can seem to be too good to be true when one meets them on the Internet.


    • Hi Lynne πŸ˜€ I totally agree with you. I have been on an emotional roller-coaster for weeks wondering whether it’s all true about what she says as I am amazed that she has fallen for me with all the issues I have. Too good to be true is always in the forefront of my thinking. Still, I am enjoying the ride so far. Ralph xox ❀


  6. I am in a sort of limbo now, I think. Congrats on the online dating success…now send some of that luck my way, por favor πŸ˜‰


    • Hi NAPR πŸ˜€ Sorry to hear that ! I do wish you luck, but I should get out of that space suit and put the ray gun away if I was you. Mind you, some men like women dressed differently and also like to be domineered by a woman πŸ˜‰ Ralph xox ❀


      • LOL! I actually get more compliments and comments on this picture than actual ones of me πŸ˜€ I’ll take it then!!


  7. Congrats on the lucky lady, Ralph! I’m so happy and excited for you. Flow like the river, Ralph. Be the river. xoxo


    • Hi Amy πŸ˜€ Thank you so much. You’re getting me excited now ! River ? …….. ummm ! ……… so I’m wet huh ! lol πŸ˜‰ Ralph xox ❀


  8. My dear friend is floating on a magic carpet not knowing where it will land. Enjoy the ride and excitement of it all! We will excuse you from blogging if you come back and tell us how everything went. πŸ™‚
    Best of luck to you and hopefully the timing will all work out so you can be healed, travel , and fall in love all before summer is gone. 8)


    • Hello Katie πŸ˜€
      Where’s the accelerator on this carpet ? Have I got to tell you EVERYTHING ?
      Thank you so much for the last paragraph. You are so sweet……today !! πŸ˜‰
      Ralph xox ❀


      • I don’t know what got into me! Maybe it was the sugar in my tea. πŸ™‚
        No more!


      • Whew ! Glad to hear that it was only sugar. Mind you. I like you going sweet on me πŸ˜€


      • Oh, you lost that when you first started commenting with me. It’s common knowledge πŸ˜‰


      • I loved every minute as well my friend especially when I was ruining your reputation πŸ˜‰ lol


    • Hi Tim πŸ˜€ Not far off the truth. Her mother is 8 years younger than me. Whew ! What have I got myself into ?
      Oh, the car ? No problem. I took the bus. Ralph πŸ˜€



  9. I’m not happy about the health issue, but ….nice about the girlfriend!
    Guess we’re not meeting behind that bicycle shack, or whatever it is anymore? πŸ˜‰ xo


    • Hi Resa πŸ˜€ Thank you so much my friend. I must agree with you on both accounts.
      Ah !! The bike sheds ! Yes, I’m afraid they’re closed unless it all goes horribly wrong between me and the GF then they will be reopened and normal service(ing) will be resumed πŸ˜‰ Ralph xox ❀


  10. so sorry about the endless medical tests/tortures you have had to endure. happy about the new bombshell, but go on the trip for sure, and if she is the one, she will certainly wait for your return. tread carefully my friend, your heart is a precious thing )


    • Hello Beth πŸ˜€ You are so sweet my friend. Thank you so much for your lovely comment. Ralph xox ❀


    • Hi Diahann πŸ˜€ Thank you so much. Such wonderful words from you my friend. Ralph xox ❀


  11. Limbotic illusion…sounds like something that might happen if you purchase your Viagra online. πŸ˜‰


    • Hi Gallivanta πŸ˜€ You could be right. A local friend of mine is getting me a herbal substitute online. He says it works for the whole weekend. For the rest of the week, who knows ? πŸ˜‰ Ralph xox ❀


  12. Congratulations to your dream girl! Let’s hope she will be with you very soon! She might cure you….. πŸ™‚


    • Hi Ute πŸ˜€ Thank you for your lovely words. As far as curing me you could be so right. The doctors can find nothing wrong so far with my hands. I told them it’s psychological but they won’t go down that route and not listen to the patient. Mainly because they are dealing with country yokels (like me !) and they are the experts not to be messed with.So maybe a 41 year old will cure me. If she does, send me your bill Dr Ute. πŸ˜‰ Ralph xox ❀


      • Haha I will! If you think it is psychological, then only you can cure it….. you need to change your thinking and yes… may be a woman! πŸ™‚


      • So ! I must get this straight !! I have to think like a woman. Yes ? πŸ˜‰


  13. Oh wow! I am so excited for you, I hope it all goes well when you finally meet her in the real world.I think you should go on your trip too, love can wait a little longer… Please don’t stop blogging, we need to know! πŸ™‚


    • Hi Wendy πŸ˜€ I’ll take your comment to heart my friend. BUT !! “Love can wait a little longer” ? Hah ! No chance !! lol Ralph xox ❀


    • Hello dear Nia πŸ˜€ Another lovely comment from you my friend. Thank you so much. Hugs. Ralph xox ❀


  14. Wishing you well, Ralph. Love the goods news and hate the bad news. May good prevail, and may you be a happy bunny. πŸ™‚


    • Hi Rene πŸ˜€ Aww indeed my friend. Thank you for being so nice, and I think, for me, the “wow” was more like an “ow”. Ralph xox ❀


  15. Are certain that when a neurologist gets aggressive on you and that will be fun. Please do not sign up for that πŸ™‚

    Hope all are well and I am glad to hear that you are in love. Make sure your needed medicine are out of your cats πŸ™‚


    • Hi YC πŸ˜€
      On my next visit, if I see her entering the Consulting Room wearing leather and carrying a whip and a sign on the door OVER 18 ONLY, I will be out of that hospital faster than Roadrunner πŸ˜‰
      Thanks for the cat warning. Ralph πŸ˜€


    • Hello Sheri πŸ˜€
      Wow ! How can I cancel now ? With only 10 days to go and no sign of her coming here yet, the holiday is still on. Whenever I go out I always have a friend with me to carry cups, cut my food, write out forms etc. On this vacation I will have no one with me for writing landing cards, reception form, helping in the hotel restaurant etc., but I am going anyway unless she turns up or I have a medical appointment during the 2 weeks I’ll be away. I have a lot of difficulties at home here, but cope, which I will have to do in Israel. So I am going for it. Thanks for the offer my friend, appreciated !! Hugs. Ralph xox ❀


  16. Oh my God! You do know how to drop a bombshell! So happy for you! Go for it is all I can say! And, contrary to popular advice – I’d say – throw the caution to the wind! Who wants to arrive to the other side (wherever that is) by being cautious! Live … whether for a moment or for eternity – just do!


    • Hi Daniela πŸ˜€ Wow ! What a write up ! I just love your optimism and advice which is just what I need at this time. Thank you so much my friend. Ralph xox ❀


  17. Take the holiday…take them with you! Definitely more fun to travel with company than alone. (Unless of course if the medical thing interferes, then hope you bought trip insurance so you can get your money back.)


    • Hi LB πŸ˜€
      I agree. Company is what I really need, but I’ll soon make friends in the hotel and I am visiting another blogger while in Israel. Maybe you should read my reply to The Other Side of Ugly – Letters to Humanity. πŸ˜€
      Hah ! Travel Insurance. I can’t get covered as I am still undergoing medical tests. I’m still going though !
      Ralph xox ❀


    • Hi Abby πŸ˜€ I’ve put the video up in your comment. Thanks for the advice. I do eat melon occasionally. I must eat more !! It’s cherry season here at the moment so am enjoying those. Ralph xox πŸ˜€ ❀


  18. Wonderful news on your new friend Ralph. So excited for you. πŸ™‚


  19. You are an expert…expert of life…..I am very proud for be your friend…..Thanks so much for so good moments …..Kisses


  20. What are they doing to you, Ralph? Experiments to see if the watermelon is ripe? Good luck with your new found woman.


    • Hello Valentina πŸ˜€
      I have no idea what they are doing to me ?? Keeps the Spanish National Health ticking I suppose !
      Watermelon ? Now that’s one heck of a size of pill to swallow πŸ˜‰
      Ralph xox ❀


      • I hope they find the reason for poking you. Meantime, Ralph, you should focus on your new love.


      • So do I !!
        And I am focusing !
        Have a lovely weekend Valentina. πŸ˜€


  21. I am glad for your new dating venture. We all have to face limbo at times in life. My suggestion is to go on your trip as planned, meet the girl, if it’s meant to be she will wait to pursue the relationship when you return, or she may want to join? But don’t give up your plans for a maybe ❀


    • Hi Debby πŸ˜€ Thank you so much for your lovely comment. With no change in my GF and I meeting, my holiday is still a “go” with 9 days before I fly. I am so looking forward to the vacation and meeting the new girlfriend. Have a lovely weekend my friend;. Ralph xox ❀


    • Hi Julita πŸ˜€ I’ll keep updating here in my blog as things develop between us. Happy Sunday !! Ralph xox ❀


  22. Sounds like a good limo…limbo to be in. πŸ˜‰
    (Well – minus the medical testing parts. But – hopefully that will all get sorted out soon).
    Go & enjoy the vacay. The lovely lady will surely still be there for you when you get back.
    Live it up!
    xx Saludos y Abrazos xx


    • Hello dear RoSy πŸ˜€ Thank you so much for your kind words. The holiday is still on for me. I am looking forward to it. Hugs. Ralph xox ❀


  23. That is good news: Ralph is in love! I’m so happy for you and your friend Ralph.
    Do not cancel Jerusalem. Maybe share with us photos back in Jerusalem.
    Have a wonderful weekend, Ralph! πŸ™‚


    • Hi Ştefania πŸ˜€ Thank you for your lovely comment. I hope my relationship does work out between us.

      Jerusalem is still on for me and I hope to post on my blog while I am there.

      Thank you. And have a fantastic Sunday my friend. Ralph xox ❀


  24. Good night friends! Sleep well and sweet dreams, and smiles when you’re sleeping
    We hear tomorrow night as beautiful and quiet!


    • Hi Ileana πŸ˜€ Thank you so much for your lovely pictures (which I have added to your comment) and words. Have a wonderful restful night yourself. Ralph xox ❀


  25. I’m intrigued by the tests (I’m a psychiatrist but we don’t do these kinds of things) and hope you’ll keep us posted with happy tidings soon on all fronts. And regards to the future lady of the manor! Buena suerte!


    • Hi Olga πŸ˜€

      Oh boy !! You’ve come to the right blog as a Psychiatrist ! lol

      I will surely keep you up to date as events unfold, unless you take me away before hand πŸ˜‰

      Have a lovely week. Ralph xox ❀


  26. Yay! Good luck! Help me prove to the world that online dating is not the root of all evil! πŸ˜‰


    • Hi Ashley πŸ˜€ Thanks for your luck. I may need it as I won’t know one way or the other until after my holiday in Jerusalem when (hopefully) we will meet for the first time. Whichever way it goes I can see a good post coming up in the future. Hugs. Ralph xox ❀


  27. Dear Friend Ralph,

    We will all be waiting with bated breath to hear what happens with your new friend and your intended holiday. πŸ™‚


    • Hi Nancy πŸ˜€ This time next week I will be landing in Tel Aviv and hope to see my new friend after my vacation. You had better breathe as I want to comment with you when I return. πŸ˜€ Ralph xox ❀


  28. Hey! thankyou for visiting my blog and liking my post. I cant wait for more of your posts about your holiday and fun. You seem to be fun loving to me! πŸ™‚


    • Hi Fiya πŸ˜€ Thank you for your lovely comment. You are so sweet. Yes, fun ! We all need more fun in our lives. So, have fun yourself my friend. Ralph xox ❀


    • Hello Mary πŸ˜€ Thank you my friend. I hope so too ! Ralph xox ❀


  29. I have been in limbo for almost the whole month of July. I suppose it is about time to climb out of it….and do something!


    • Hello Mary and welcome πŸ˜€

      Maybe just thinking and writing those words will give you the kick start that you need at this time.

      For me. I have had the holiday and I am waiting on others (medical & friend) to move me out of limbo finally.

      Have a lovely day. Hugs. Ralph xox ❀


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