Star 2012 -2013


I  am really upset this morning as Star has just died this Monday morning in the veterinary hospital in  Ronda, Spain.  Here is her story :

Just before Christmas last year Hilda rung me to say that she drove past my apartment and there was a kitten in the street below and could I take a look at it. I went down and saw this bag of bones. Even in her condition she was so sweet as she came up to me nuzzling on my leg. I took her home and she was immediately sick bringing up purple liquid with a huge chunk of dog food. Her first poo had more worms than poo. David and Hilda took her to the vet and over time was treated for worms. She ate well, proper cat food this time. She loved milk but had to stop when I was told that cow’s milk is bad for cats.

A couple of weeks passed and the owners of Star created a scene in the street demanding Star to be returned to them. I laid into them after they refused an offer from me to buy her from them. In the end I walked away and told them that there was no way that Star would ever be returned to them. Her whole function was to be a rat catcher in the farm. She was not fed and lived on bugs, grasshoppers and anything that she could find. Poor thing !!

I looked after her as a house cat, who never went beyond the balconies, for 9 months. She was always playing , hiding, sleeping and loved to rip my legs to bits as she jumped up to go to sleep on my lap. Within days she became another member of my family of cats.

Star asleep on my lap
Star asleep on my lap


 On Saturday morning she was her normal self.  I noticed, just after noon, that she looked drowsy, her head and tail down. Over the next few hours she wouldn’t eat or drink her water. Sunday morning came and she couldn’t walk. So I called in the local vet, a new young lady called Clara, who recommended that I take her to the vet hospital immediately. Pedro and I arrived there with Star.

The vet did his tests and said that Star’s kidneys were infected and hugely oversize. He administered a drip and kept her in. On phoning this morning the vet told us that she had died just a few moments ago.

So Star. I will miss you dearly. Rest in Peace my little one !!  😥


Ralph xox 😥


PS. Thank you to David & Hilda for your help and advice in raising Star. Also another big thank you to Toni & Pedro who made the phone calls to the vet, drove Star and myself to the hospital and went to the bank to pay the vet’s fees. Thank you.


110 Comments on “Star 2012 -2013

    • Star’s story was worth publishing. At least she had 9 months of fun and pampering. Your comment is appreciated YC. Ralph xox 😥


  1. I am so sad to hear this dear Ralph, I know this feeling when I lost my cat, but they are now in the cat’s heaven… I do believe this… They are great gift for human, for us, always make us happy. Rest in Peace… Thanks and Love, nia


    • I believe this as well. Pets, as many other animals have souls and have as much right to heaven as humans. I am sure that Star will be there to greet me when my turn comes. Your comment is lovely Nia. Ralph xox 😥


    • Thanks Elisa. It’s a sad day and answering comments is helping me to come to terms with Star’s loss. Ralph xox 😥


  2. Oh Ralph, I am so sorry to hear this news. There is such sadness when our little companions die, as well you know. 😦 Hugs.


    • Thank you my friend for your lovely words. Sometimes blogging and real life do not mix well. While we were fooling around in my previous post I did not know one way or the other the outcome of Star’s treatment. At the time our little bit of fun was a welcome distraction. So I must thank you Gallivanta for that at least. Ralph xox 😥


      • Well, I am glad I could be of some help. One tends to feel incredibly helpless in situations involving the illness of our pets. We can only hope they can sense our genuine care and love for them and our wish to ease their suffering.


      • I am sure they do know that we are trying to help them. As she lay on the vet’s table she edged herself towards me as I was talking to her. She just wanted a cuddle.


  3. That’s so sad, Ralph. I’m so glad that you were able to give her lots of love and care over the past 9 months. 🙂 Hugs to you.


    • You have brought back memories of her Sylvia. Remember the post when I lost Star and couldn’t find her ? After almost tearing the apartment apart I eventually found her curled up in an empty flower pot, totally oblivious of the worry she caused. Hehe !! 😀 Thanks my friend. Ralph xox 😥


  4. Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….

    Author unknown…


  5. So very sorry Ralph. 😦 I know just how sad you feel, and shocked. We lost a cat in what sounds like a very similar way. He suddenly got sick and took him to the vet and then just died. The vet thought it was kidneys.
    Sounds like Star was very blessed – something guided her to you in the first place.
    Sometimes our love is only needed for a short time, but it’s needed just the same.


    • Then I must know exactly as you felt at the time of your loss. In such similar circumstances too !!! I feel very privileged to have looked after Star for a short time and I will miss her a lot. Ralph xox 😥


  6. I am so sorry Ralph. Such a beautiful little shining Star. I can only say that you gave her a wonderful life when she was rescued by you. A life that would not have been lived, even though short, had you not nursed her to health and given her love and kindness.

    For what it is worth, I choose to believe that our pets have souls because they have been in close association with humans. I believe they have an other worldly presence that is out there in space. They are part of the air we breathe, the rain that falls, the birds that sing.

    She is your guardian angel now- the perfect Star who will continue to guide you. She will return to you as another waif from the streets. I can assure you of that. Star came into your life for a reason. Maybe her gift to you was that you changed in ways that you have not been aware.

    Now lest you think I am totally nuts- that is ok. I reckon that is my way of dealing with grief. There are several poems on my site under pet loss. There is one that I wrote for my daughter back in 1999. I will send it to you via email.

    Ralph, please take comfort in her memory and of knowing that you did all that you could for that precious kitty. I know that it cuts into your heart and hurts like hell. Again, I am so very sorry for your loss.


    • Thank you so much for your very long comment Yvonne my friend 😀

      I really do hope and pray that she is now in a better place waiting for me. I don’t want to be selfish, but could I cope with another cat again? I still love my other two cats. They are about 10 years old now which is about 6 years longer than living with their feral mother eating out of rubbish skips. I really need to take a vacation and leaving my cats, even with friends to come in and feed them, is still a worry. Knowing me, how can I refuse to take in another Star !!!

      I am looking forward to your email containing the poem you wrote to your daughter. Ralph xox 😥


      • I’ve received your email and I will read the poem tomorrow when my head is more focussed. Thanks for sending it Yvonne. x


      • I hope you don’t mind Yvonne. I would like to put your email in this reply. The poem is so good. Thank you my friend 😀

        Dear friend,

        I am very sad for you and sad that Star’s life was so short. Cats are very specia to me and I know that yours are to you. Those that have been rescued by us become extra special. Try to get away when you have collected your thoughts. Leave detailed care instructions with the caretakers and make sure they check on the cats 3 times daily and where to take one should the cat become ill. Take care and you are in my thoughts.

        Maybe you can find some comfort in these words and maybe not. The poem is not polished as I am far from being a poet.

        The Day You Told Me Goodbye

        It was fate and destiny that led you my way
        Thank you dear Lisa for finding me that day
        You rescued me as a wild, dying kitten and gave me life
        I shared your good times, the bad times, your pain, and strife
        My life with you was filled with warmth and tender care
        And other pets whose love for you, I could share
        I am gone now, you told me goodbye- please don’t be sad
        Remember the happiness we shared together and be glad
        The mornng I left you, my breath became the wind that gave me wings,
        To live on in spirit and in the wind that sings
        I will touch your face as a warm raindrop on a summer day
        You’ll hear my purr as a hummingbird darting among the flowers of May
        I am still following you with footsteps that you can not hear
        For I am your guardian angel now and I will always be near
        I am free and wild again but I’m with you in my spirit though we are apart
        You will see me again in other pets who will know the goodness of your heart
        I will live on in the beauty of a butterfly and in the music of the wind
        And one day you’ll find me as a tiny kitten in need, waiting to be your friend.

        Poem by Yvonne September 21, 1999


  7. So sorry to hear about Star. I am glad that she had a good home in your care. I am sure Star appreciated it. Cats and dogs can always know who the good people are and you are one of them to care for her. Rest in Peace, Star.


    • Hi Frank 😀 A really lovely and touching comment from you my friend. Yes. Rest In Peace little Star. Take care. Ralph 😀


  8. i’m sorry for your loss ralph. she was a beauty judging by her pictures and so nice you found each other and had this time together.


    • Thank you for your very touching comment Beth which I must add to all the other wonderful comments about Star. So many of you are looking after or lost pets and my heart goes out to you. Even though they are a different species, they become a part of, or take over family life, and their loss can be as traumatic as losing a human family member especially to someone living on their own such as myself. Ralph xox 😥


  9. This is the hardest part, but I promise it gets better. After all the sadness you eventually find peace, it’s almost as though your connection is still there just on another level. I lost my first pet this year, and I think it’s amazing how happy such a little soul can make us. I hope you can find your peace soon.


    • Hi Kari and welcome to Bluefish Way 😀 I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your first pet, but now you have found peace with memories. I hope to follow suit when I’m ready. Ralph xox 😥


  10. Ralph, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Star, I am sure she was a light in your life but now that light shines up in Heaven….just think that you gave her a wonderful life with you where she she knew love, warmth and had a home….and all the love she gave to you in return….what a gift to receive…..hugs sent from across the pond…


    • I am very grateful to read your caring comment Annie. Yet another one reducing me to tears. Thank you my friend. Ralph xox 😥


  11. Bless you, Ralph, for taking in Star and doing so much for her. It makes me cry that she is gone. I remember the stories you told about her, and even in this short time, you meant a lot to you and you took such care of you. She is now a star in heaven. I have cats, and I still miss Malcolm, the cat I had for almost 19 years, even though he’s been gone three years.


    • Your comment is so endearing Catherine my friend. I’ll cry with you, enhanced by your memories of Malcolm. A star in heaven. I love that !! Ralph xox 😥


  12. It’s sad how some people treat their animals and Star has had luck 🙂 when you found her and took her with you. I feel sorry and you will miss her but she will always be in your heart !


    • It is sad and unforgivable the way most people treat animals. Star was lucky that Hilda was the one who saw that she needed help. That is so true that Star will always be in my heart. Ralph xox 😥


  13. I know that you loved Star very much and you will miss her very much. I know exactly how you feel as we lost our pet 4 weeks ago. They are in our hearts and we love them so much ! So sorry about it!


    • Thank you so much for your loving and caring comment my friend. I know that it hurt you so much when you lost your pet. I am so sorry.
      It’s past midnight and Star would normally be laying beside my laptop watching the cursor move with her front paws on the edge of the laptop. I don’t normally watch the screen as I type, just the keys. One time her paw pressed Caps Lock and I typed almost a whole comment in Caps Lock On. Memories !! Ralph xox 😥


  14. I will miss Star. I cannot imagine how you feel. 😦
    Sooo glad you stood up for Star and the two of you had a great 9 months. Take care friend. 8)


  15. I’m so sorry, Ralph! Poor little, Star. I think her last months with you were happy ones!! You did good to care for her and take her in. It’s hard to see our furry friends depart. Amy xo


    • Thank you so much for your lovely words my friend. My heart is filled with your kindness.
      Sorry I was so long in replying. I had Pepi, a lady painter in the apartment for a couple of days painting doors and shelves. Today she was working near my laptop. Like most trades in the village work is pretty much non-existent. I heard that she was honest but broke, so I gave her a couple of days unnecessary work. It’s a shame I couldn’t help her more but all the painting is done here. I hope she gets more work as she may be starving. When she left I had a siesta. 6 hours later I woke up. So here I am, answering your lovely comments. Ralph xox 😥


      • It’s my pleasure, Ralph. You are such a dear person to help Pepi with some work. I’m sure that has made all the difference to her. You are kindhearted soul, Ralph, doing a good deed. Big hug and kiss!! Amy xo


  16. Awww, I’m so sorry! Hang in there though.
    She is adorable.


  17. So sad you lost Star. Just found out now. I watched her video, such a cute sweet kitty.

    We rescued a cat, Malachi, here where we live. Like you, his owner showed up and demanded him back. He had been abused, his mouth was injured and they had partly shaved him as he is a longhair and filled with worms. We like you, refused and walked away and went inside. They left. Good for you to stand up to the owner who never fed her and demanded she mouse for survival. I think she will be there waiting for you.



    • Brilliant. Well done Steve in standing up to the owner and taking in Malachi. He must be the one you take for walks on a lead. A lovely cat. I tried to copy you with Star but I couldn’t clip the tiny connectors on her harness, so had to give that idea up. Love to you, AJ and Malachi. Ralph xox 😀


      • Thanks. We haven’t taken cats for walks lately, been quite busy, but they don’t forget and whine at the doors, or they escape and run thru the neighborhood with us in hot pursuit.


  18. I’m sorry for your lost and you’ve been take care her very good.
    (ps : for several time i can’t comment in your blog, wondering why? lol ….. hope this comment can get trough :D)


    • Hi Yessie. Sorry to hear that you couldn’t comment. It’s a shame as I always like to hear what you and others have to say. This one got through. Yippee !! Thank you for caring. Ralph xox 😀


  19. This is so sad. I’m so sorry that Star has died. What a horrible thing to have happened and with no warning. Please try to get some comfort from the fact that you gave her a wonderfully happy last 9 months of her life. I’m sure she absolutely adored you and appreciated everything that you did for her. Poor Ralph, losing much loved pets is really tough and I do sympathise 😦 Big Hugs to you, Lottie xxx


    • Hi Lottie my friend. Thank you so much for your kind words. It’s time I moved on. It’s been 36 hours since I lost Star and it’s time I published a funny post. It will do me good as well as my readers. I hope you are smashing down the hurdles that are hindering your move. Ralph xox 😀


  20. Oh so sad. 😥
    Sorry to hear about your Star.
    What wonderful wonderful & loving heart you have for taking her in, caring for her, & fighting to keep her. She lived a much better life while she was alive because of you.
    xo Abrazos xo


    • RoSy. Where would I be without your supportive comments and this one is no exception ? Thank you so much. Big hug. Ralph xox 😀


    • Thank you so much. I will miss her.
      I love reading your posts especially the folding towels !! Ralph xox 😀


  21. Oh my dear Ralph … I just came over to yours to see what you up to and found this sad news. I am so very sorry … I know you will miss her.
    Sending you huge hug my friend,


    • I do miss watching her walk like a ballerina on points with her long thin legs. Thanks for your kind words. Ralph xox 😀


  22. Ralph, I am so sorry for Star! 😦 I know how painful it is to loose a dear one. I’m also so so very proud of you to have taken care of her so well. To have taken her under your angel wings and not agreed to give it bak to those bloody bastards.

    I hug you strongly!


    • Your comment is overwhelming Julita. All my appreciations are heading your way my friend. Ralph xox 😥


  23. May Star R.I.P…it is so sad to read about her state when you first found her…on a brighter note, at least the last year of her life was showered with many T.L.C…by many kind and lovely souls…

    Take care and be well, my friend! Bless you always~ Cheers!! 😀


    • Star did have a lovely fun time with me and I really miss her. Lovely words Wendy. Thank you. Ralph xox 😥


  24. I’m so sorry you lost your little Star, Ralph. This is such a heartbreaking news 😦 Sending some Pawkisses for comfort 🙂


  25. Oh, Ralph, I am so sad to hear this. It has been heavy on my mind for days to write to you but have been unable to untangle myself from catching up everyone’s schoolwork long enough to do so – until this morning… and then this news 😦

    You must be devastated, and my heart goes out to you. I really have trouble thinking this has happened. In my mind Star is always on your lap, although I remember the time she got lost and you found her in a jar. I’ll always smile when I think of the two of you!

    Many, many hugs and much love,


    • Hi Lyann my friend. So lovely to hear from you. I do understand the pressure you are under but I am so pleased that you made this comment about Star. I do miss her warmth on my lap. 😦
      I hope you are all well now and that everyone is happy at home. Ralph xox 😀


      • Star in the Jar!

        What a lovely kitty, and how wonderful she had you to care for her. I am thinking she might be chasing around Heaven our little mouse “Kitty-Snickers” who died last week…I would hope they might become good friends rather than dinner partners 🙂

        How are the other kitties doing? I’m certain they feel your sorrow. Cats are such empathetic creatures, although many people don’t believe that. I hope all of you are doing well and that life brightens again soon for you.

        We are all feeling much better, thank you, especially since we are nearly caught up with all the backlog of schoolwork. Definitely we will be happier when it’s all complete, but we are happy at home now 🙂

        We all send our love, Ralph, and the children said to give you big hugs, as best as can be done over the internet… ❤



      • I expect Star and Kitty Snickers are having fun. Your mouse must have been a sad loss to you all. My other cats are fine though when Samantha is playful she has been running around the apartment looking in the places Star usually went. We are starting to get used to Star not being around. Without her the place is more quiet.
        Good to hear that you are happy at home and thanks for all your hugs which I am so pleased to return 😀


  26. So sorry to hear of your loss Ralph. Star was blessed to have had you in her life, if only for a short time. Sending lots of hugs your way.


    • Thank you so much for you hugs Lyann at this time of the loss of Star. I hope you both are okay with improvement on the horizon. Love Ralph xox 😀


  27. Oh Ralph, I am so sorry. I loved Star, too. I think we all did. It was such a beautiful story of Rags to Riches with Ralph. I don’t have any words, Ralph. I’m just sad. Here’s a hug from your friend. I can’t even put a smiley face. xoxox


    • Thanks Marsha for your lovely comment about Star. She is missed so much by me. Ralph xox 😥


  28. Oh, this is so horribly sad! 😦 You were very noble, fighting for the right to keep her…what terrible treatment she had – until you. Feel better soon, I hope…xo


    • I really do appreciate your kind words my friend. I hope she is having fun elsewhere at this time. Have a lovely day Alarna. Ralph xox 😀 but sad


  29. So sad for your loss of Star. She was beautiful. You must feel good that you gave her a great life that otherwise she would never have had. Be proud of yourself, that you did the best you could for her. Huge hugs.


    • These words of yours Sandra are so kind and touching. Thank you my friend. I would like you to read The Presents of Presence comment (above) about the Rainbow Bridge as it may help you with your loss of Peaches. Wonderful words. Ralph xox 😥


    • Star was so soft and sweet. Not a gramme of wrongdoing in her little soul. Just accepted whatever came her way with love and devotion. A true angel. Ralph xox 😥


  30. Dear friend Ralph,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope your happy memories of Star will help ease the pain of her passing.

    Sending hugs to you my friend.



    • Thanks Nancy, my friend. I do really appreciate your caring comment. It’s been over a week since we (I + 2 cats) lost Star and we are coming to terms with it. Ralph xox 😥


    • That is a really kind thought. Thank you Patricia for your words and the big hug. Ralph xox 😀


  31. So sad. I am glad you made the last few months of her life happy ones.


    • Thank you so much for your lovely comment JK. I do miss her. Ralph 😦


  32. So sorry, Ralph. I’m glad Star’s last months of her life were filled with all the good things kitties should have including lots of love. You’re such a good person. ((HUGS))


    • Thank you so much Elizabeth for your kind words. I still miss Star. Ralph xox 😦


  33. I’m so sorry for your loss! I love the video : ) Star looked so happy! We have a little black kitty who adopted us last year . . . and Lightning makes 4 cats for us : ) He was pretty scrawny and just a baby when he showed up. He’s quite healthy now and very rambunctious : )


    • That’s really nice Willow 😀 Sonic & Samantha, my other two cats are happy house cats, constantly talking to me 😀 I still miss Star. Ralph xox 😀


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